Can You Socialize an Grownup Canine?
Adult dogs who missed out on socialization can be helped, but it has to be done right. Here’s the intel on how to most effectively—and kindly—teach your dog that the world isn’t such a scary place.
Did your dog miss out on socialization during her critical early months? Maybe you were advised to keep your puppy isolated for health reasons, or your work schedule had you so swamped that nothing went according to plan, or you adopted an adult dog who didn’t get off to the best start in life for who-knows-what-reason. No matter how your dog wound up with a socialization deficit, there’s a good chance you consulted Dr. Google and had the living daylights scared out of you regarding her prospects for happiness.
I’m here to tell you there’s no reason for all that gloom and doom. There are things you can do instead throwing your hands up in despair.
Don’t panic. All is not lost. Sure, nobody is going to argue that this is the ideal situation, but your dog can still have a wonderfully fulfilling life. Tons of dogs who weren’t socialized “by the book” experience joy every day, and so do their people. The key to making that a reality for dogs who have not had the benefit of proper socialization is the same as for almost all goals: work slowly and patiently rather than pushing her, and accept that she will determine how fast you get where you want to go. Setting an arbitrary deadline for her progress is not helpful. There’s never been a circumstance better-suited for the phrase, “It’s the journey, not the destination.”
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Remember the purpose of socialization: to expose your dog to a variety of objects, social partners, sounds, sights and experiences in a positive and non-threatening way. During the early months of their lives (especially from three to 12 weeks, which technically represents the socialization stage of development), puppies are really good at accepting anything they encounter in a non-scary way. It’s super-easy during this critical period for dogs to get used to new things if the new things are connected to happy experiences. (“That man with the funny hat gives me treats!” Or, “This floor has a weird feeling, but it’s fun to play fetch on it!”)
It’s generally harder for dogs to adjust to novelty after the socialization window has closed, though the better the socialization was, the easier it is for them to generalize. (“Oh, another peculiar hat—that’s cool.” Or, “Wow, this floor is different than the others—that’s fine.”) For adult dogs who did not have those good experiences early on, learning to accept new things and be comfortable in the world takes more effort, but progress can be made, and can continue to be made throughout their lives.
It’s analogous to learning a language. It’s much easier for babies and young children than it is for adults—almost effortless with the right exposure. However, adults can and do learn foreign languages all the time. The degree to which they master the language depends on their natural abilities as well as the time and effort they put in.
Keep experiences positive. The most important part of making up for lost socialization opportunities is to keep it positive. Your dog can learn to accept novel situations and experiences, or become less fearful of them, by having many, many positive experiences.
For example, your dog didn’t meet children early in her life and now finds them terrifying. She can learn to be okay around children if you begin with a child who’s too far away to upset her. When she sees a calm child down the block or on the other side of the park, give her a piece of chicken. Do that enough times and your dog will start to associate the sight of a child with chicken. That makes seeing a child a positive experience, and that’s great.
Over time, you can gradually—and the operative word here is gradually—have your dog in situations with a child who is closer, or with multiple children, in ways that don’t upset her but instead, continue to teach her to be happy about seeing children. Those positive experiences are critical for success.
Conversely, you cannot help your dog become comfortable around children by exposing her to negative experiences—say, with a child a few feet away or a nearby gaggle of children running, screaming and throwing their backpacks around. That’s too much for most dogs, well-socialized or not, and no amount of chicken can make it into a positive experience. Such negative experiences work against the goal of helping your dog be comfortable around kids by reinforcing any ideas she already has about children being terrifying.
Go slowly and don’t push your dog. Helping your dog succeed takes many steps, and there is nothing to be gained by rushing through them. In fact, rushing her is counterproductive. Let her guide your timeline rather than the other way around. If she’s handling a situation well, great! If not, get her out of it. Accept that she is providing you with an opportunity to practice your own patience.
If you force her to be too close to something or spend too much time in a context in which she’s uncomfortable, you will only get in the way of her progress; you will not accelerate it. Any time you’re trying to help your dog get over a fear or discomfort, you must be willing to retreat, even if you don’t want to.
Ideally, you can keep the situation positive and quit while you’re ahead, but if that fails, you must remove her. It is a great kindness to protect your dog from situations that cause her distress. Work with your dog where she is, exposing her to new things in ways that work for her without trying to expose her to the whole world at once.
Adjust your expectations. If your adult dog missed out on puppy socialization, she’s taking a different route than she would have with the benefit of those early experiences. Don’t expect her to be a social butterfly who handles absolutely everything with the greatest of ease. Frankly, dogs with perfect socialization histories don’t often end up that way, and it’s even less likely for a dog who didn’t have such opportunities. Remember, the goal is a dog who is safe and happy, comfortable with most of the things and people she encounters in life. She doesn’t have to be a happy-go-lucky dog without a care in the world to be incredibly fortunate and enjoy life to its fullest.
Don’t try to do this on your own. There are a lot of resources to help with a dog who needs to learn to be comfortable and unafraid, including books, webinars and websites. Make use of them. Many focus on helping fearful dogs. That’s because most dogs who were not well-socialized are fearful of various aspects of the world, whether it’s cats, other dogs, people, carpeting or the sound of cars.
Seek out individualized help. A qualified trainer or behaviorist can teach you how to use the principles of classical conditioning along with the best treats and toys to help your dog make positive associations between new things and feeling good. It may not be as quick as if she had had those exposures as a puppy, but she can still make them.
Take advantage of what she can already handle. For example, many dogs have not been well-socialized to people but are very comfortable with other dogs. Take advantage of that and go new places with a dog buddy. If one isn’t already living in your house, perhaps you can borrow a dog, or a friend and her dog can come along on outings.
Or maybe she had what some would describe as “no socialization,” but that’s not actually accurate. Did she meet a couple of people? Hear high winds blowing or walk on grass as well as pavement? All of these exposures are helpful, and make her very different from a dog who truly had no socialization at all. There are rare and heartbreaking examples of dogs who’ve had no human or canine interaction during the first six months of their lives. While these dogs are much more challenging to rehabilitate and are unlikely to make as much progress as most dogs, the principles are the same.
In conclusion, remember that many dogs thrive even without ideal socialization experiences, and there’s always time to help your dog achieve many of its benefits. It’s essential to adjust your expectations based on the start she had in life, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on her. The effort requires patience, time and a realistic setting of expectations. Go slowly, keep experiences positive, be diligent about helping her handle things that alarm her and protect her from situations that could overwhelm her.
Plenty of dogs who were not socialized in a textbook manner are filled with love and joy every day, and we want your dog to be one of them!